A Dad's Point-of-View™

My weekly column is about parenting, with a special emphasis on the male perspective.  The subjects range from raising teens, divorce, marriage, blended families, dating (with special expertise on Internet dating), and male/female issues to family financial matters, and more. 

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  • When Should We Take Risks?

    We went on a family skiing trip recently and on my son’s first run of the season, he fell and broke his arm.  Thankfully, it was a clean hairline fracture and he should heal just fine.  It may take his ego a bit longer to recover, as he was trying t...
  • The Best Thing About Getting Older Is...

    I had lunch with a good friend the other day and the subjects we covered really made an impact on me, as I reflected on them.  I had just come from a lesson in using social media, where I’m learning the new technologies that are popular in our culture ...
  • Is Being Right Enough?

    How often have you made a choice, in which you knew that you were right, yet it turned out wrong? If we, as adults and parents, can do this, what can we expect from our children, especially our teens?  I still can’t get over the fact that human brains ...
  • Don't Give In! - Stick With Your Rules

    Nobody promised that being a parent would be easy nor were we assured that we’d get kids that were easy to handle. If you’re like most of us, you face regular challenges to your authority, your rules, and the way you expect your kids to behave. As wit...
  • It's Complicated - Marriage

    My wife took me to see Nancy Meyer’s new movie, “It’s Complicated,” which stars Meryl Streep, Alec Baldwin, and Steve Martin.  She had seen it a day or two before and wanted to see it with me saying, “It would be good for us.”  Honestly, I d...
  • Do We Teach Our Kids How to Make Good Decisions?

    One of the many things that we try to teach our children is how to make a good decision.  Sometimes the problem can be that we may not always make good decisions ourselves or we may allow emotions to influence our choices.  I found this to be true in a ...
  • Our Kids Are Getting a Much Harder and Scarier World!

    The parents of every generation expect and hope that their children can and will do better than they did. Ours may be the first generation, in a very long while, where it is both unlikely and unrealistic to have this expectation. The world has just gotten...
  • Did I Learn Anything This Past Holiday Season?

    Every holiday season brings both wonderful times and challenging family situations for most of us, my family included.  This past season included the first visit to our home of my in-laws, the first time my sons and I would be apart, and the first time m...
  • I Hate New Year's Resolutions!

    I hate New Year’s Resolutions. I swore I’d never write one. I misspoke. So, this is going to be a New Year’s Resolutions column, with a twist: it will include both resolutions and wishes. I am going to mix my own personal resolutions and wishes with...
  • What Does the First Year of Marriage Portend?

     Dennis Prager, one of the most influential men in my life, spoke on his talk show recently about the impact of a first year on marriage. He asked if an easy, successful first year or a difficult, hard first year were indicative of the long-term succ...
  • I'll (Not) Be Home For Christmas

    This holiday season my wife and I will celebrate our first year of marriage on separate continents.  As we are different races and religions, there are usually challenges we encounter at this time of year, so maybe being 7,000 miles apart will make it ea...
  • When Did I Become the Senior Dad?

    While walking with a friend the day after Thanksgiving, we shared our respective holiday experiences and noted that we were both now the senior dads--the main paternal figure in our respective families. We laughed together, but it was a moment of melanch...
  • A Man and His Dogs

    When I was a child, my mother brought home a little dog that was so small that she carried it in her purse.  The dog was a mixed-breed of Pekinese, Pomeranian, and Chihuahua and my mother named it Su-Su. Fully grown, she weighed maybe 7 pounds.  Su-Su w...
  • A Dad, His Son, and D's and F's

    What parent hasn’t dreaded report card time, especially when a child is underperforming?  How do two kids, born of the same genetic material, turn out so differently when it comes to school performance and their work ethic?When is it wrong if the “...
  • Raising Kids Takes a Lot of Luck

    Raising kids, like many things in life, involves many factors but luck is a key factor.  I’ve faced recent reminders about this when I attended the Bar Mitzvah of a young man with severe learning disabilities, whose parents had the poor luck that he ...
  • Random Musings

     Author's Note: Let me know if you like this kind of column, for a change. Just go to Join The Conversation.Sometimes there are many ideas fighting for attention in my mind, covering all the subjects I tend to write a column about, but each isn’t wort...
  • My Son Has The Swine Flu - A Daily Journal

    NOTE:  I am not a doctor and this column is not intended to be giving medical advice.  It is about my experience with my son and the swine flu, and my belief that the media may have exaggerated and scared the public about its risks. Regardless, you shou...
  • Stuck Between My Wife and the Kids

    In every marriage, spouses face an inevitable choice between their children and their spouse. It is a classic dilemma that confronts every couple and one that is inescapable and difficult. It is especially true in second marriages, like mine.  I have to ...
  • E-mail, Etiquette, and Friends

    E-mail is so ubiquitous that we forget that it isn’t talking on the phone or having a conversation in person.  Subtlety, facial expressions, or tonality are all lost in an e-mail message.  I have found this has gotten me in trouble when I think I’m ...
  • Lessons of a Big Brother and Mentor (Revised)

    (Please note that this is revised version of an older column, but one that holds a lot of value, in my opinion.  I am still "matched" with both my "little brother" and the young man with the genetic illness.  I can say it's not easy, either of these rel...